On Defining

Part of my research paper is dealing on how religious issues effect gay male relationships, specifically in domestic violence. I was introduced to the term "social fusion". Social fusion is the ability to balance the need for independence and autonomy for attachment or intimacy in relationships.
-Off balance relationships are those that are in disapproval, like gay male relationships. I say this is true because these kind of relationships are not accepted as a whole yet. Gay males still experience a lot of oppression and discrimination.
-Also, it has been reported that couples who experience autonomy and independence are less likely to report or experience verbal or physical violence.
--This leads me to believe that a change in how society views the "ideal" heterosexual couple. In order to create a less hostile environment for gay male couples. (As well as lesbian couples) This less hostile environment would actively welcome same-gender relationships and allow them to feel and act like a "normal" family.

*Reference: A Professional Guide to Understanding Gay and lesbian Domestic Violence

Kinda like a punch in the gut...

....when someone accuses you of something you never did, or never even thought about...all you did was care, gave everything while they gave none..

"don't make someone a priority if they only make you an option."

I think that pretty much sums it up.

No More

No more time for you,
we're through.
I can't keep waiting
while you're debating
on the next thing to do.
I have sat patiently
but no more.
My soul and heart is beyond sore
from the run around and games,
while you're abusing and using, it's a shame.
No more tears for you.
I've cried an ocean to drown your voice
in the back of mind.
Every time it's just a rewind,
you're in a standstill.
No more. I have to move on.
Be the bigger person,
and try it.

Things happen for a reason...

I have always believed in that saying.
What happens happens, but do you ever wondering how or why? Does it even matter? Perhaps it doesn't. The thing that does matter is how you look at what has happend in the most positive light and how it can better your future.
I've learned that by the time you are born much of your life is predestined, all layed out, good and bad. It makes sense once you think about it. However many will turn the other way without ever considering because we all want to believe that we are in charge of our destiny, the driver seat if you will. If that were the case then life would be pretty swell, you'd have no worries because don't worry I can fix it. NOT so much. In any matter it is how you take the events of your life and assimilate. Make it work with your lifestyle at hand....be the rolling stone, pass on the moss!

Does it ever work?

Well it was nice while it lasted.
I thought it could have worked out....
but do long distance relationships ever truley work out.
When both partners are completely happy?
I highly doubt it. But if so. I want to hear their stories.
I told him I was here for him, but that wasn't good enough.
Besides every day that went by without seeing his face or hearing his voice wore another layer away.
I couldn't stand it.
He's not a bad guy...he's a sweet guy with some addictions...but doesn't everyone have an addiction, right? We all do, whether it be going to check your myspace, waiting every week for the new show to come one from your favorite series, coffee, cigarettes, alcohol, chocolate.....can someone be addicted to love..that feeling of bliss that overcomes your entire body and at that moment nothing else matters, because you just got your fix. Then you move on, until you get that itch again, jones for another dose of that sweet confection of devotion. Not realizing who you are hurting on the way because it doesn't matter just so long your addiction is satisfied. Until one day, there will be no one left there to give you their love, not even for a second. The eternal loneliness eats at you, withdrawls now set in, and your body aches. It just wants to love. You shouldn't have used love, you should just let it come to you....

"Love: The irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired."